Advocacy for a free woman, released, natural and spontaneous

At the time of the death of Françoise Héritier, at a time when the French language is questioned concerning gender agreements, back to the daily life of women.

Long hair, skirt, jewelry, make-up…

In the name of seduction and non-neglect vis-à-vis the eyes of Others (men and women without distinction), most women feel obliged to have long hair. Long is the list of disadvantages : interview (time spent washing, untangle, find the least annoying hairstyle), parasites that cling to it ... For trying the hairstyle very, very short (almost shaved head), I must admit that the most shocked have passed (including my very close ones) by a whole bunch of questions and especially that of the disease or so arose the memory of unworthy women in wartime ... But in return, what a feeling of freedom!

If we continue with the list of signs of her femininity, we will also find the skirt, high heels, hair removal, jewelry, make-up, the creams ... All to say the least disabling in my eyes ! Not one to make everyday life easier : between the time used, physical discomfort, money spent ... no, I do not see.

Is, she is attentive to her body, to the image it conveys, she refuses to let go , but wouldn't there be a fairer balance ?

Wasted time

What time spent in front of the mirror ! Each morning, smooth, beautify her face, lengthen eyelashes, color lips, eyelids and cheeks, enhance your erased complexion the day before…

Not to mention the jewelry and the fitting outfit : a substantial wardrobe, sometimes heavy jewelry, bulky, who tickle and sometimes tickle…

When we see the gait of a woman with high heels, we wonder how is his back, how she would escape a chaser (she would undress for sure !).

 

Woman's artifices… integrated handicapping cultural constraints.

Does she really like to think that she can seduce or that she must seduce by these additional devices ? Does she feel obliged ?

I’ve heard many say that they like to look good, but this is not a totally cultural "constraint" ? Furthermore, accepted, integrated and claimed !

I'm sure for the majority of them, coming home is a relief if only to get rid of all these devices that prevent it from moving naturally. And the first thing they do, is taking a comfortable outfit, lighten up parade ornaments, get back on his feet flat and warm,

I dream of a time when the woman will take care of her for her and not for the Others… Because even if she thinks she is doing it for her, the 9 tenths of the time spent on it is for the gaze of Others, to his defending body and soul !

A visual competition in the name of beautiful things? The need to attract partners?

Stand out from the opposite sex ? Femininity imposed since the dawn of time ? Construction œdipienne ?

Female narcissism ? We add something to the woman or she handicaps herself ?

Many questions to which some answer a little ... without any certainty because there is no Truth, but several realities…

Valérie Doulevant

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